Recognizing signs of possible post-divorce difficulties in kids
No matter how complicated a divorce may be, parents typically only want what is best for their children. That is why many parents strive to establish a child custody agreement that accounts for not only the physical but emotional needs of kids as they transition into new living and lifestyle routines. As families adjust to life during and after divorce, it’s important that parents be aware and sensitive to changes they may see in their kids.
Parents are often the first ones to notice if and when their children are struggling with changes caused by divorce. Some children experiencing difficulties can become less social and/or pull away from current friends. Similarly, a sudden change in the types of friends and activities that a young person is interested in can be an indication that he or she needs extra attention.
Kids who are able to interact positively with their peers as well as older people are showing positive signs of adjustment to profound changes within their family. Beyond that, open and active communication on the part of a child is preferable. Kids who are not willing to speak up and express anything from joy to frustration to anger might be dealing with difficult emotions or other issues.
In addition to maintaining positive and healthy social relationships, kids who are handling their parents’ divorce reasonably well often continue to enjoy and/or pursue their favorite interests and hobbies. On the same note, noticeable changes in a child’s school grades can be a sign that there are problems that need to be addressed.
Developing a responsible and fair child custody agreement is an important step in ensuring that kids are able to adjust and thrive after divorce. Parents can speak with an attorney to learn about their options for custody and visitation arrangements.