Setting the tone for the divorce
While many people used to assume that litigation was the only option for coming to a divorce agreement, Utah residents are increasingly turning to other alternatives. Divorce mediation, for instance, provides couples with the opportunity to develop a plan outside of court that is mutually beneficial as well as respectful of both parties’ needs. The ability for separating couples to enter into effective mediation can depend largely, however, on their relationship at the time of beginning the divorce process. That is why it’s recommended that people consider how the first conversation about divorce should go.
The mere mention of divorce can be incredibly disturbing to a spouse. Therefore, the topic should only be brought up once a person decides that it’s the right decision for him or her. Similarly, the conversation of divorce shouldn’t come as a complete surprise to one’s husband or wife. Ideally, both parties should already be aware that their marriage is experiencing major difficulties, and that efforts have been made to help the relationship. Ensuring that the other party has had the opportunity to understand the severity of the situation and confront the prospect of divorce helps to guarantee that he or she is capable of considering mediation.
When it comes time to actually talk about divorce, it is sometimes recommended that the conversation take place in public and/or under supervision. It’s also important to maintain control over one’s words and actions when broaching the topic of divorce. Being sensitive to the other party’s emotions, as well as the fact that the relationship will likely continue in one form or another, is an important part of setting the tone for mediation and reconciliation in the future. Speaking with an attorney early on can also be helpful to understanding one’s own emotions and priorities during divorce.