Helping your family through divorce
Divorce is known for being one of the most difficult life events that many people ever go through. And while it can be a stressful experience for adults, children in divorcing families may not have the ability to fully understand or articulate the new situation they find themselves in. fortunately, there is a lot parents can do to help their kids through the process of settling into new custody and visitation arrangement, while helping themselves settle into a new sense of normalcy.
Call it as you see it
Acknowledging that feeling emotions like pain, guilt and insecurity are natural responses to going through a divorce, it is helpful to remember that such a dramatic change can offer great potential and benefits as well. Individuals have the opportunity to explore their independence and interests and families can thrive in a happy and healthy environment.
Show them how it’s done
By accepting the new situation, parents can begin to build the foundation for their family’s future. Kids of different ages and temperaments relate to emotions and stress in numerous ways, often learning responses by mimicking behavior. Therefore, it’s up to both parents to set the tone for their new households by being positive and respectful.
After a divorce, children and parents alike are often eager to know their place and feel confident about their role in the family. That’s why setting schedules and establishing routines can do so much to eliminate anxiety and foster a sense of security in kids. Similarly, respecting schedules typically helps parents work together as a new kind of team.